Today would have marked 19 years of marriage. There, I said it…
Anyone who has known me for an extended period of time, knows that I am #ProMarriage. I lived and breathed marriage for almost two decades and understood more of God’s beautiful imprint upon the sacred institution.
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I’ve already grieved the loss of my marriage. Yes, I have moments (like anyone else who has experienced a major loss) where the impact of grief hits me in the face like a closed door on occasion. Still, I have accepted the changes in my life – totally.
Relocation was a God-send as I allowed the Lord to rebuild me – spiritually and naturally. But I realize that one of Satan’s biggest lies and tricks is dangling condemnation in front of me as bait. I could either believe that my family is forever halted or I could confidently own that my family has shifted.
I have my daughter, my siblings (and a host of nieces/nephews), extended family, friendships/connections, and my community here in Florida. “No husband” does not equate to “no life.” And the greatest part of my “family shift” is this: the love of God has met me in supernatural ways to comfort, heal, affirm, befriend, and restore. The Lord is the head of my “shift.”
Divorce is not God’s original design. He actually hates it according to Malachi 2:16. However, His grace allowed my marriage exit due to the circumstances that were unfortunately presented to me.
And so I continue… I continue in God’s acceptance of me… I continue in the celebration of marriages that mirror authentic love and honor… I continue in forgiveness of my past and the people associated with it… I continue in being a healthy co-parent… I continue writing about faith and family as the woman that I am NOW… I continue in the transformative nature of a “family shift” and not a “family failure.”
Have you ever experienced a “family shift” in your life? How have you adjusted?
With love always,
—Keturah
Keturah Teasley 
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